Category Archives: Adolescent Care

High School Challengers

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How prepared are you to cope and deal with the challenges your High School child may encounter? If you are a parent with a child attending high school then you could not be blamed for feeling a mixture of excitement and apprehension when you think about the year ahead. However high school is one of the best way to help your child develop his personality, with the help of self development instructional books or self development books your child will bound to learn so many things during this time of his life. The onset of adolescence usually starts at the same time as the child reaches high school or not long after.

Continuing intellectual and personal development means that this is a period when these young people often start to think more about politics, religion, social matters and such philosophical questions as “What do I really believe in?” “Who am I?” “How different am I from my family?” This kind of soul searching often leads to conflict with parents and mutual criticism of outlook, attitudes and behavior.

You may find yourself faced with a teenager whose taste in clothes, hairstyle, music and friends you may deplore, you may find that you cannot resist the temptation to comment unsympathetically and judgmentally. However you do need to be mindful that it is at this time that you need to be strong and tolerant without being rigid and unreasonable. Because if you don’t exercise patience and understanding it is during this time that the gulf between you and your child may become unbridgeable. It is important that you learn and understand how to handle misbehavior.

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How to Alienate Your Child by Attacking Their Friends

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Parents seem to think that if they don’t approve of their child’s friends, all they need to do is scream and yell about how bad the friends are and the kids will get the message. The only message the youngsters receives is that their parents don’t like them, not the friends, but their own child. The child will then rebel, or if s/he changes friends, will resent their parents.

What you’re saying when you disapprove of friends

Unfortunately, some children do select companions that are not of the caliber you want for your child. The friends may have low self-esteem, misbehave in numerous way, not be serious about school, or lack responsibility. You don’t want your child to be influenced by such behavior.

When you tell your youngsters their friends aren’t any good, you are telling them they are a lousy judge of character. People choose friends based upon what attracts them. Perhaps your son or daughter sees the friend acting in a way s/he wishes s/he could. When you disapprove of their choices, you are telling your child you disapprove of your son or daughter. When the youngster believes you disapprove of them, they are hurt and become angry. Some express their anger by screaming and yelling while others express it by withdrawing.

A broken relationship

Once you have given the message of disapproval you have forced a rupture in the relationship. It is up to you mend it. Yes, you hopefully have greater wisdom and understanding of life because you have more experience. Don’t rub your child’s face in your experience. Instead, find out what about the friend your son or daughter likes. Be non-threatening about it.

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Is Your Home Safe for Your Kids?

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Depending on the age of your kids, keeping them safe at home can range from being a full time job to an emotional roller coast. In one sense it could be said that its easier the younger they are.

Although the dangers can be greater, they are more predictable and in a sense more manageable, more black and white. Cupboards get locked, things get put on top shelves, stair gates get put up, kids don’t get to argue about what time they have to be back home, or don’t get to play with knives etc. As kids get older the issues become more blurred, things aren’t quite as black and white.They take more responsibility for their own safety, and inevitably, your role as a parent becomes scarier because of the inevitable doubts about whether or not you’ve made the right decision. The biggest area of safety as kids gets older is inevitably technology. Its an area where kids often literally know more than their parents, but more than that it is their world, not their parents world.

The intimacy and immediacy of Facebook and the like make it a generational divide like non other. It raises the bar about how far a parent can remain involved yet remote from their kids life. That is the key and most difficult question in the sense of how to keep them safe.

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Nightmares – Secret Tips For Kids

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Sleep is what the body needs. When we sleep sometimes we dream, and this mostly at night. Not all dreams are pleasant. There are those that scare us to death. For kids, scary dreams can make sleeping dreadful, propel them to demand the presence of another older member of the family before they give in to sleep.

Nightmare is a frightening dream followed by a sense of oppression or suffocation that usually awakens the sleeper. This may occur repeatedly or on any night. The child wakes up and becomes moody throughout the day. There are simple steps to take to end this experience.

Keep scary materials away from the kids. Visual materials such as horror movies, vampire books, bloody stories, and any other books not recommended for their age. A child has a virgin mind which can easily recall whatever that is fed to it. The tricks associated with movies are not detected by these young minds. Hence, kids believe anything they see or read.

Do not compel them to do something by calling the names of things they fear as though physically present. Repetition of those words may make the child live in fear. Since the child’s brain is still developing, any imagination created sticks. Mind the words that you speak to your kids to eliminate the occurrence of nightmares. As much as possible do not expose your children to the full details of horrific news.

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